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Welcome to my world. I'm Tricia Gloria Nabaye, on a mission to advocate for gender equality, human rights, and democratic governance through the lens of feminist intersectional practices. With nine years of experience, I've honed my skills to be a force for positive change. My strengths lie in problem-solving and effective cross-cultural collaboration, and I thrive in leadership roles. My analytical perspective ensures that my advocacy is data-driven and impactful. My primary focus is on feminist leadership consulting, where I provide valuable insight and guidance. I also offer rapporteur services, ensuring that essential discussions are documented and shared. As a feminist researcher, my deep commitment lies in addressing gender issues, empowering women and girls, and advancing public policy advocacy. I'm a visionary dedicated to shaping the future of advocacy with a strong focus on human rights. Join me in our journey to drive positive change. Together, we can build a world where gender equality and human rights are at the forefront, ensuring a more inclusive and just society for all.

Thursday, January 29, 2015

ON LITTLE ROOM FOR OLD FOLKS...a tale of lost respect.

Makerere University concluded it's 65th graduation ceremony last week and in all spirit and joy everyone was excited to be done with school and everything that entails the academia...the first degree is ever so a delight. An estimate of 14,000 students graduated but government has potential to create jobs for only 4000 graduates..the wonder then is in the air, of how the 10,000 will survive.
In the job market today, ages from 21 to 70 plus hustle for the same jobs, old men have chosen to battle the world with the little ones and in such a setting a bitterness that sprouts from deep frustration in the way things are has left many a people determined to make sure that the grand mamas and grand papas don't find it easy to get their way out.

Ideally, society has taught us to respect the elders and give them priority treatment, an elder in the African society has always been a reflection of knowledge, wisdom and a lot of respect.The children of our society have always been reminded that it is the dirty spot in the old man's eyes that sees clearly and what an old man sees sitting the young cannot see standing.These were pointers on how  great in wisdom the old folks were...until things changed!!! As a matter of fact the general outlook of the African society today has a rather different dynamic compared to the prior days, today old folks are far from peak and example of knowledge, wisdom and respect they used to be.It has come to my notice that in our time,it is very hard to attach age with maturity and wisdom. We have missed the chance  for men and women to be given invaluable knowledge and wisdom that was passed on to the old folks. It is known in many developing societies, that as the young men of society lead the society, the old folks are meant to be giving advise and direction to these young ones. But what happens in a society where you sit in a interview queue with a 60 year old, or when you are competing to get promoted with a 65 year old or worse still the 50 year old is in need of a girl 25 years of age, one a man of 30 also needs? What is left is a battle field and ground for competition.Old folks today have been scrapped off the pages of people who command authority and respect and have been left with bare heads as just men, ordinary old men.

Today, a man of 60 will steal and find no excuse in reprimanding his character, a man 70 years of age will rape a child and find no cause to be remorseful and that beats all levels of needed respect. Where have the men of honor gone...men that taught children to work hard, men that devoted the last years of their lives to making young people become better people, the men that made the African society flourish with respect and praise of their abundant wisdom.We need those men, men of integrity. We pray for such men to teach our young men how to treat women and how to raise families, how to protect their children..those great men,we need in our society to breed again great old folks.

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

ON CONVERSATIONS WITH STRANGERS

So I listened intently,Quietly as the conversation went into a new wave..something that I find interest in, Marriage. In his tale of 20 years of marriage these were the words of a grown husband, father and grand father to a rather unset fair lady,who in my opinion needed this wisdom as much I did.And then as he spoke, I listened more intently than my neighbor with a need to hear of his great lessons on life and beyond.
This is how the conversation went on:

Married man: Good evening my daughter
Fair lady neighbor: Good evening sir
And the conversation that set in from that point led them to this rather life changing one.
Married man: You see, my daughter,times have changed...what we valued before has no regard  in your times..I admit, some of the reasons are that we didn't offer an all round job in raising this generation well but also part of it is in the choices you make as children of this generation.Outside those two reasons,only God can tell.
Fair lady neighbor: You mean all the other chaos doesn't count? Like poverty, bad leadership..
Married man: You see, my daughter if you look closely they already exist in the two I have said. I have been married for 20 years and I still find the lessons I learnt as a young man valid for use even today.I chose to have one wife even when two or three could have been permitted in our time. I am a happy man simply because I am a good husband.
Why I talk about marriage now is because all and everything society is to become comes from this union,societies are built by the great bond of two people willing to nurture and raise a Nation, those two become 5 then 10 and then 1000 of people willing to raise generations.
Fair lady neighbor: I understand, but then that means families have failed to provide generations that are worthwhile. Especially husbands...many men today are crooks and lazy...they want everyone to wait on them.
Married man:(with a rather patient smile on his face) You know, I have had this conversation with one of my daughters before she got married and she sounded a lot like you. But lets break this down before we reach society.
Marriage was and is one of the defining moments in one's life, girls dream of the dress they will wear and men of the bride they will take. Everything else falls with in our many dreams for marriage. We all start out with good intentions, be it raising children or getting married or even starting a  relationship...for every sane person,there was an intention that was pure and promising.So things only fall apart along the way, not before they happened.
The wonder has been in the air of the many orphaned children, single mothers, single fathers, trending sexuality questions, teenage pregnancies but all this has only but suffered a change in morality and values. Values have been redefined to suit the trend and morals have been long washed from the need to be used. So you see my daughter, as you cry for the loss of valor in men, they too cry for the loss of virtue in women. It is everyone and anyone but we ought to be objective that society still has men and women who have a belt of value and virtue still tied around their hearts. You seem a nice person, I choose to believe you are, I pray you meet a man better than me.(In my head I had made this man an angel yet he claimed he was not any good) I saw the confusion on my neighbor's face, she must have been thinking the same.
Married man then extended his head forward and smiled at me and he went on with his words of wisdom, it was then that I realised the whole taxi was silent listening intently to this bundle of knowledge give a few highlights on what life is.

Married man: So dear, as you find your way through life, you do what is right and the right things will come your way. To be sure it is going to be hard, there will be seasons of dryness and seasons of plenty... enjoy both. I don't know if you are in a relationship, but that principle applies to both single and married life. Everyone should get a chance to find a forever partner...I did and am still smiling to this day. Pray for whoever you will end up with, because I know, we might not redeem the whole generation but today I am sure I have redeem one person for a start...so I am confident that you will raise children with great morals and values so that they too can raise others with morals and values.The cycle should go on,we must find a way of making the cycle move on. But you have to put such a cycle in a union like marriage. Until then, prepare yourself avidly for the task ahead.
Married man: Think about it my daughter...(He paid his transport fare and a few minutes later, married man  got off his stop and went)
I know that conversation was for whoever was on that taxi but I choose to own this conversation because this man taught me a truth to life, that has brought new purpose to me.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

A DEVELOPMENT WORKER'S REALITY

I find myself in a generation where everything is upside! In a country where impunity is a second language to the people and the rule of law is by far a fading reality for me and the people that walk this red African soil...It has been said that Africa will  never get the respect she so desires, unless she takes her governance in her own hands and also finds her place in this world as a super continent and that calls for development and sustainable at that.But the reality of a country like mine is that of;corruption, disease, neo-colonialism, human rights abuse and quagmire systems of democracy. And in a such situation I search for my need to cause change. Men and women my age have made a difference in different ways and in my own small way I let my words each day be the voice ever so needed to bring life to the unheard revolution...for long time pen and ink have been the strongest weapons to fight for change.
Poor African Kid Meme Poor african kids drinking

As a development scholar, I have been left to the detrimental discussion on what to do and where to go from hereon....do we find a solution to our demise as a collective or does each  individual find a solution from where they stand? Do we stick to the so-called" rigid" culture beset in our existence or do we find a flexibility in the provided solutions represented by the western so called "developed" countries.Where do we go from here? Where each effort to cause change as a country has been met with lost lives or where picking lessons from great leadership, has only ended up making men in positions of power more rigid than before. Where do we find a lasting solution to our very much dark future,will we have to take up arms, to cause war or die to the last man before the cause of freedom is acknowledged.Do we have a way out or we die to apathy for the longest part of our lives as we pray day and night for a miracle to befall our nation and bring an end to the repugnant rule we have been subjected to...what do we do from here?
... of all of those poor starving children in Africa with every bite

Problems have been mentioned, solutions given and yet we are still stuck in a leadership of violence and deception, reduced to mere beggars in our very own country. Are we better off as a people independent or as a protectorate? that answer I live to see answered and so pray dearly that all this chaos will be over when we raise children for this Nation. May future generations find cause to be proud of our generation, may children sired be raised to know a better life than I did, but only that can happen in a rise of morality, values and integrity, It can only happen in a lifted love for one's country,in the patriotic search for freedom...it can happen in our continued search for a better place to raise our children and protect our mothers but such change only happens if a people is ready for change.Until then, my need to see sustainable development happen, lies in far land hoping and waiting for the appropriate time to redeem my Nation.
That is my reality...for now.

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